“Once we realize that any thought, any condition is temporary,
with no power, no charge except that which we give it,
we can go back to our natural state
which is joy and amazing awesomeness.”
– Pam Grout
In my previous article, “What Negative Emotion Really Means“, we determined that negative emotion is not a bad thing – even though it feels bad. It’s actually a messenger with information about where our vibration is.
And we decided it’s best to:
(1) avoid feeding it with our attention and focus,
(2) refuse to beat up on ourselves for feeling it, and
(3) remember it never helps to feel bad about feeling bad.
So, now, accepting that negative emotion exists not to hurt you but to inform you, what is the best way to respond?
Before you can decide on the best response, you need to determine how wonky your vibration actually is.
If you’re just a bit wobbly, only slightly out of balance, see (A) below.
If you’re in a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad mood, see (B) below.
(A) You may have gotten good at noticing how you feel so that you’re aware of a low vibration in the early subtle stages. In this case, you have some easy options:
You can simply think thoughts that feel better. This will soften resistance and help you climb back up the emotional scale.
You can focus on something / someone that is easy for you to appreciate and watch the dark clouds roll away.
Ask yourself, “What DO I want?” That simple question will immediately shift your focus in a better direction.
Two magic bullets for me, if I’m not too far down, are EFT and the focus wheel process.
“Negative emotion is your indicator of resistance,
while positive emotion is your indicator of allowance.”
(B) If you’re really feeling gnarly, you simply won’t be able to turn that train around on a dime. When you’ve got lots of momentum going in a downward spiral, you don’t have immediate access to happy, loving, positive thoughts.
At those yucky times, ask yourself, “How can I soothe myself in this moment?”
Maybe it’s meditation and deep breathing.
Or a good cry. [Crying releases resistance big time.]
Or getting in bed and pulling the covers up over your head.
Or binge watching Netflix.
When you take a time-out and let go of the problem for a while, you open yourself up to a solution.
One thing I learned the hard way is to never make major decisions or take action from a low vibration. That only leads to regrets and apologies.
Same with shoving down unwanted feelings with food, drink, work . . .
Also, forget about trying to get to the bottom of a problem. First, there is no bottom. And, second, focusing on a problem prolongs it and makes it bigger.
Whether you’re in (A) or (B), remember it’s temporary and do your best to accept yourself, other people, and what-is.
Knowing what negative emotion really means and what to do about it empowers you to return to your natural state of joy and amazing awesomeness!