“Depressed people have good memories for bad stuff.”
– Brian Johnson
A few years back, one of my mastermind partners surprised me by declaring it’s never too late to have a happy childhood.
My first reaction was “Yes!” Followed almost immediately by “Huh?”
Seems like that ship has sailed, right?
Although I couldn’t fully understand it at the time, I could feel the power in that statement and I was more than a little intrigued.
Thinking back, I had only known one person who claimed to have had a truly happy childhood – and I married him! Back in those days, I was still railing against the lack of love and attention I felt I had received from my parents. As I got to know him and his parents better, I realized that his childhood was not all that different from mine.
The difference was in what he chose to remember and the story he chose to tell about it. Once again, it’s all about choice and focus!
In every childhood there are at least some good times. And you get to choose what you focus on – the good times or the bad; the happy or the sad; the wanted or the unwanted.
Unless you’re under oath in a courtroom, you are not required to remember accurately and recite the “truth” if it doesn’t feel good to you. [A topic for another time is whether anyone ever remembers accurately anyway.]
“But it’s true,” you demand!
I’m not saying it’s not true or that it didn’t happen. I’m saying you have the power to choose what you focus on. And that makes all the difference!
If you choose to, you can tell a better feeling story.
If you choose to, you can free yourself from a negative past and create a more positive present and future.
Are you feeling giddy with power yet?
“One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory.”
– Rita Mae Brown
Right now, take a moment and think of the story you tell about your childhood. Does that story make you feel good? If not, give yourself the freedom to recall only the good parts. Write them down. Continue to write down more good memories as they occur to you.
Even if you can only think of one positive memory at first, focus on that one positive memory and others will begin to bubble up. That’s the Law of Attraction in action.
You can use this same process for any other previous experiences that feel bad when you recall them:
Was there ANYTHING you enjoyed about that “horrible” job? Focus on that.
Were there ANY good times in that “awful” relationship? Focus on those.
Did ANYTHING positive come from that painful experience? Focus on that.
Selective memory is not cheating. It’s actually a conscious creator’s power tool and you’re cheating yourself if you refuse to use it.
Create the reality you truly desire by being very selective about:
what you choose to remember,
what you choose to focus on,
what stories you choose to tell from now on.
You are so much more powerful than you thought you were!
As it turns out, I actually did have a happy childhood because I now choose to remember only the good times.
It’s up to you. You get to choose. You are the decision-maker for your life and you can choose memories that feel good or memories that feel bad. When you choose to activate memories that feel good, you become the conscious creator of your own precious life! And, as Abraham says, that’s what you came here for.