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A Complaint-Free Week

“When you complain, you make yourself a victim. 
Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. 
All else is madness.”
– Eckhart Tolle

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Complaining, griping, kvetching – we all do it, right?
Complaining can be a habit and, for most of us, it’s pretty easy to get others to commiserate with us.  It can even feel anti-social not to join in someone else’s bitch session.  But is complaining really a habit worth continuing?

Facebook Memories reminded me I had engaged in a complaint-free week in 2011.  It was an interesting and revealing week.  Here’s a recap:

Day #1.  For the next seven days, I’m committed to living a Complaint-Free life.  Zero tolerance for complaining or blaming.

[I got the idea from Will Bowen, the founder of an organization called A Complaint Free World.  I posted my commitment and invited Facebook friends to join in.]

Day #2.  It’s natural to notice things we don’t like. That’s the contrast that inspires desire. The contrast also sets up a crossroads. We can complain and attract more of what we don’t like OR we can make peace with what-is, focus on what we prefer and attract more of the good stuff.

[I get to choose how I respond and it matters very much what I choose.  As A Course in Miracles proclaims, “I could choose love instead!”  Or fun . . . or joy . . . or . . . ]

Day #3.  I notice my tendency to complain when I have to wait – at the chiropractor’s office, checking out at the grocery store, etc. I’m wondering – Is complaining a response to feeling powerless?

[It may feel like I’m taking my power back when I complain, but complaining actually lowers my vibration and exacerbates my feeling of powerlessness.]

Day #4.  The weather forecast calls for a high of 108 here in Austin. Rather than complaining about the heat, I intend to appreciate the air conditioning and imagine cool crisp fall weather coming.

[My neighbor was bemoaning the heat wave that day and I responded that I’d love to join in but I had committed to a complaint-free week.  We both laughed.]

Day #5.  I bet if we REALLY got it that we create our own reality, instead of complaining about a reality we don’t like, we’d get busy creating a reality we prefer.

[Complaining only brings us more to complain about.]

“Instead of cursing the darkness, light a candle.”
– Benjamin Franklin

Day #6. If I say it’s too damn hot or this traffic sucks or why did she cut my hair so short, I’m complaining. If I say it’s really hot, there’s a lot of traffic today, she sure cut my hair short this time, I’m noticing. One is a complaint and one is an observation.  And the vibrational difference is huge.

[This was a fun realization.  I can notice what-is without complaining about it.]

Day #7.  Calls to customer service departments have often been less than a cakewalk for me so I set a strong intention before calling AT&T today.  It worked!  I sailed through the entire call without complaint and proved that – with the right attitude – I can enjoy every moment of this physical life experience.

[How empowering to know that it’s possible to enjoy any situation.  Well, if not enjoy, at least accept.]

Revisiting my Complaint-Free Week reminded me:

gold starhow much easier it is to maintain a high vibration when I refuse to give in to blaming and complaining.
gold starI can always choose a better feeling response.
gold starinstead of complaining about a reality I don’t like, I can focus on the reality I prefer and, thus, create a better feeling experience.

Today I’m beginning another complaint-free week.  I’m super determined to find something positive about every situation.  Why?  Because it feels better to light a candle than to curse the darkness!

Will you join me?


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Do You Really Care What Other People Think Of You?

Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.“What will the neighbors think?” That seemed to be the main concern of my parents when I was growing up.

As much as I rebelled against it at the time, and as much as that concern always felt like bondage to me, and as much as I really did see it as an example of how NOT to live, I still internalized the message that it matters VERY MUCH what other people think of me.

What I realize now is that being so concerned with what the neighbors and other people thought of us back then meant we were denying our own inner guidance and our own right to choose the best way to live and especially our own right to choose what feels good to us.

“What will the neighbors think” morphed into what will anyone and everyone – except me – think about me!!! Believing that I was constantly being judged and that it was extremely important not to be judged negatively, my connection with my True Self became tenuous at best.

While I remained in the prison of what other people think of me, my external guidance was playing at full volume and my inner guidance was often set on mute.

“It’s just about being you and being cool with that.”
– Carmine Gallo

Subtly and stealthily, I learned to let the way other people felt about me determine how I felt about myself. Which lead to trying to get other people – especially significant others – to like me so I could like myself.

Can you imagine? Trying to get other people to like and approve of me in order to like and approve of myself!

Well, it made sense at the time. Actually, it never made sense. It just became the game I was playing. The impossible game of trying to feel good about myself while believing it matters desperately what other people think of me!

When I first heard Abraham’s guidance to not give a rip what other people think, I was thrilled at the idea but I had no clue where to begin.

I had always liked the aphorism “happiness is an inside job” and decided to figure out what that actually means. I finally – halleluiah! – started looking inside to feel good. There were shaky starts and setbacks, but my True Self continued to call me to feel good from the inside out.

I set intentions, recited affirmations and practiced new beliefs. Most importantly, I made friends with my Inner Being and decided if my Inner Being and I feel good about me, that’s enough for me.

Now, with rare exceptions, I celebrate each day that:

I Feel Good from the Inside Out and
I No Longer Need Other People or Circumstances
To Make Me Feel Good!!!

And that, my friend, is #freedom!!!


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How To Make The Law of Attraction Work For You

Mastering the Law of AttractionOne of my stellar clients [they’re all stellar!] wrote on his Session Prep Form that he had received yet another promotion at work and his co-workers were teasing him about “building an empire.”

He also said co-workers have been asking him how he does it, i.e., how he continues to receive promotions and expand his team and excel at a pace that is unfamiliar for most. Plus, he’s only 31 years old and most of his direct reports are significantly older. [Read More. . .]


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Having Fun Along The Way

“Life is a journey – not a destination.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

This journey is yours enjoy each and every stepHow many times have you heard the advice to enjoy the journey? I don’t know about you, but this guidance was not always so easy for me to follow. Even though enjoying the journey from where I was to where I wanted to be made perfect sense to me; for most of my life, I was way too goal-oriented to do more than merely acknowledge it as a good idea.

Over the years, though, as I’ve released my programmed tendencies to work too hard and push too hard and try to force square pegs into round holes, I’ve gotten better at enjoying the journey. [Read More. . .]


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Please DO Get Your Hopes Up

“Get your hopes up!
Expect something good to happen to you every day.”
– Joyce Meyer

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“Don’t Get Your Hopes Up!”  We’ve heard that advice all our lives.  Family, friends, books and movies have all warned us not to get our hopes up.  It’s part of our popular culture.  You may even say it yourself, but did you ever think about what you’re saying?

Don’t Get Your Hopes Up is possibly the worst guidance ever.  It’s advising us not to hope and not to have desires – which can only result in a low vibration.

Like most people, I absorbed this teaching by osmosis.  I also remember when I said it for the last time.   [Read More. . .]